By: Erika D. Johnson
So, insecurity, let's talk about it.
When I think about insecurity, I think of how I used to run around and do so many unnecessary things to feel secure while it was actually distracting me from doing purposeful work. In hindsight, I’ve come to learn that insecurities and distractions are horrible when it comes to prospering in your purpose. In fact, I think it's one of the worst things a woman can be, especially if you are an entrepreneur because there's so much power in productivity when it’s coupled with intentionality and focus on fulfilling your purpose.
When I look at the Proverbs 31 woman, I think the reason why she was so amazing was
because she was productive in her purpose, and our good sis gave off no insecure vibes.
Proverbs tells us that she perceived her merchandise was profitable and that she laughed at the future. She was prepared and utilized her gifts and resources where she approached her future with immense joy and confidence. I don't want to go off on a tangent about this, but I want to share how powerful it is when you are being productive and how detrimental it can be when you focus on feeding your insecurity.
Focusing on and following the voice that insecurity whispers will cause you to be like a chicken with its head cut off. Why? Because insecurity will grow and evolve if you don’t remove it at its root and you’ll find yourself in an endless attempt to try to feed and catch up with it. It can rob you of your time, energy, and your peace. If you find yourself in a space where you are constantly doing things to help you feel more secure, consider the following and take a second to reassess why.
Let’s define insecurity.
Uncertainty or anxiety about oneself; lack of confidence OR The state of being open to danger or threat; lack of protection.
Let’s define insecurity.
Uncertainty or anxiety about oneself; lack of confidence OR The state of being open to
danger or threat; lack of protection.
Now, here is my definition and it's not “truth”, it's just my truth; Insecurity is a destroyed
foundation that you were once stable and secure on. There's always something that you
stand on or rely on to make you feel whole, happy, stable, fulfilled, safe, beautiful,
wonderful, successful, or in other words secure in who you are.
Whether it be singular or plural, the things that create the security for you, can constitute a
degree, relationship, status, title or position.
A) How you look (skin, body, hair, clothes)
B) Academic accomplishments (full scholarship to college, career positions, letters
behind my name)
C) Your partner’s thoughts and actions towards you
D) All of the above
Using myself as an example; I’ve always felt secure from D.). When all the above started to fade away and fall apart, so did my security, which was rooted in those things. My foundation
became compromised, and my insecurity started to rise when I realized for example that my partner would mention other girls' talents or beauty which caused me to look at other women in comparison because they were invading the space where I shined. If others have that space too and I'm secure in that, then what do I have? Am I no longer special or enough? Am I comparing and opening the door to envy or jealousy? This is one example, but it begins like this and the only way to get around this shaky foundation that your confidence rests on is to dig up the root of what your security is grounded in. God will help you, by removing whatever you're standing on right from under your feet.
Think of you doing the trust fall and there's no one there to catch your fall except for God. It will feel different from human hands, but God WILL catch you and he will build you up. How you see yourself, your confidence, and what you can accomplish by faith will begin to burgeon and grow along with your entrepreneurial prosperity. Submerge yourself in God's word until you start to build upon it and your foundation will be unshakeable.
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About The Author: Erika D. Johnson is the owner of Beata Beatus Co, an empower company for women and girls. Learn more and connect at http://www.beatabeatus.com/